.what does mean by stubborn? Doing the forbidden things again and again or create fuss to be get something ,,it is a very simple detail of the word sttuborn.
WHY do the children become sttuborn ?According to my perception,as i was myself very sttuborn from my childhood till today,the extra care or some time the extreme ignorance can lead to the child toward sttuborn,as i was elder baby of my parents and also in my maternal side thats why ultra affection was the genuine cause of my this weakness,I used to do all the activities whether harmful or harm less for me as i always get mysef compel after obstination,any ways the second primary reason of obstiantion which i found among kids is being getting neglected by thier parents,the lack of communiction between parents and kid develop fuss and stubbornness in a child,as commonly observed that some parents just follow thier kids and pull them towards obstination as they get annoy or irritate by thier kids asking for some thing and rather than making them understnd by love and care , they get rid of thier child by following them,so cosy for parents but severely dangerous for kid.
How to handle the sttuborness in kids?
COMMUNICATION between the parents and kids is the key of better nurture to the child.
STORY TELLING is also a good skill to make the kid understand but always remember story should be exemplum.
DO NOT FORBID the kid all the time ,the child may loose his independence and diffident child is not your desire surely.
TAKING PART IN Child's ACTIVITY ON AND OFF would remove worthless fear of parent and develops friendly environment.
COOL AND HOT ATTITUDE both are necessary which runs the kid according to parents.
kids are the precious gift of God ,little effort made for them can give a complete person to our society.
I agree with your thoughts about obstinateness, I used to be an obstinate person in my early 20's as the age difference b/w me and my siblings is quite less and i thought my parents give love to them more than me another reason of my stubbornness was facing so many failures and the thought developed in me that i am below an average person that thing also took me away from ALLAH but with the passage of time i fought with my weaknesses and my own inner strength helped me a lot to get rid of such a self pity nature.
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ReplyDeleteI agree with your thoughts about Stubborn & Obstinate, I used to be a stubborn & Obstinate boy, this is because of lack of communication between Parents & Kids, This problem is not only with boys but with girls too.
ReplyDeleteImpressive efforts, normally we don't discuss such kind of topic in our society so often. I do agree with your opinion about obstinate, we don't realize that why our children is going into this as a matter of fact we (parents) blame each other for such kind of behavior. You raised a very good point of why do children becomes stubborn. Ideally parents must spend their time with children, they need to increase communication with them. What we see in today's society that kids try to share there everything with there friends instead of there parents. That's looks fine but they will only compel towards their friends when their parents will not pay proper attention to them. This could lead to many bad things.
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